Monday, September 9, 2013

Mind the Mind, the Matter Doesn't Matter


After watching Sir Ken Robinson on Ted Talks, there was one particular thing he said that resonated within my being: “The great problem for reform or transformation is the tyranny of common sense”. This insightful yet facetious quote reminded of a non-fictional event that occurred to me a couple of summers ago which profoundly impacted my being.  Allow me to explain it to you in the form of a very short story.

My pocket vibrated twice.  It was my phone informing me of a new text message. “Yo! Bonfire at Laguna, get yo ass over hurr”, it read.  As per usual, most activities during summer were spontaneous. I preferred the spontaneity; planned-ahead activities indicated what to expect and my mind tended to create incredible circumstances that could possibly, maybe, occur. They never did. This led to a sense of disappointment, as it were.  The fire roared and crackled as it devoured the wood. The cool breeze did nothing to diminish the warmth of that night or dissuade the humidity. Two big jugs of cheap-yet-surprisingly-tasty sangria accompanied my arrival. We formed various circles around the fire as we talked, laughed and “got shit faced.” At some point in the night, I suggested skinny dipping, “Let’s get naked and go swimming!” The various circles of people cheered their approval. We counted to three and I proceeded to remove all my clothing and sprint to the sea.  I dove into the water and quickly realized I was alone. There was cheering and whistling from the people on the shore who happened to be fully clothed and completely dry. The water felt good, but I considered returning to the group. Upon deciding to leave the water, she exploded from beneath the surface splashing me in the process. I had no idea who she was. I desperately tried to maintain eye-contact, lest she think me a sexual deviant.  She must have noticed my efforts because right then she let out a melodic laugh and I couldn’t help but laugh with her. It was high tide, our playful banter and conversation was silenced only as we jumped over little waves or dove under larger ones.  “I’m glad I wasn’t the only naked person in the water. To be honest, I’ve always enjoyed being naked with company” I told her. She laughed and said, “So this must be a common occurrence for you.” I quickly responded, “Nope, this is a first for me.  You’re the only mermaid I’ve ever met, like in my whole life.” She laughed loudly at that. “Don’t I get a wish if I find a mermaid?” I asked her. “You mean a naked mermaid wasn’t what you wished for? Uh oh, I must have the wrong wisher, I should probably go then.” She pretended to turn, as if to walk away, when my arm wrapped around her waist. I distinctly remember the curvature of the dimples that adorned her lower back. My other hand made its way to her chin and she tilted her head ever so slightly. Her luminous lips met mine. “It fascinates me that you’re okay with being naked in public” I said. “There’s no such thing” she replied. “What do you mean?” I asked. “Clothes are conventionally used to cover your legs, your arms, your torso, your chest, my vagina, your dick.” “Yeah, and?” I asked.  “Are you your legs?” “No” I answered.  “Are you your arms? Are you your torso? Are you your chest? Am I my vagina? Are you your dick?” she asked in one breathe. “No”, I replied. “So if you and I are none of those things, then you or I being naked can’t exist, because being actually naked is independent of whether our limbs are clothed or not…The real-you is in your head” she said, as she kissed my temple. Unknowingly, that night would lead to the first and only time I fell in love and the realization: who you are is in your head. That is to say, our composition is the manifestation of our perceptions.

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